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The One That Never Got Away…

The one that never got away…

Forgive me for the obvious nature of this blog, but I felt that this was an appropriate topic to talk about given the month we’re in. The topic for today is… 

Yes, sadly, I feel the need to talk about that little four letter word that makes everyone a touch unstable. I appreciate in advance that the lovely owners of this company will probably block this blog for being cynical when they are all loved up, but I’m going to try! (See Kate’s previous blog if you haven’t – I’m saying nothing!).

As a single man in London, I am witnessing what can only be described as the slow decline of all my coupled up friends into a romantic paranoia. The fear that is seeping in steadily through their partners question of “So what’re we doing for Valentine’s Day?” has taken hold of the majority of them now. One or two people cling to the attitude of playing it by ear, but I know that by the weekend they’ll be on the phone to Moonpig desperately seeking that perfect card.  The poor saps – I don’t envy them at all.

I won’t deny that the idea of a date on Valentine’s Day would be really nice and I certainly won’t lie and say that I want to spend it alone. That simply isn’t true. However, I have, over time, become something of a realist. I know this won’t happen for oh so many reasons, which I won’t go into, but suffice to say I shall be throwing my usual ‘Anti-Valentines’ day bash. Anyway, that’s not even the theme of this blog…

The real reason I wrote this was just to question the whole logic of love and why we’re so obsessed, as a race, with finding Mr or Mrs Right? We manage for a large period of our lives as a single entity, but when we hit 16, we become utterly obsessed with the idea of needing someone to ‘complete us’. However, it can’t just be anybody – that would be too easy. We have to find our soulmate. The One.

They also need to be reasonably good looking, which means the unattractive ones don’t have a shot in hell! Why should it be that features get you further than personality? There is a group of people, and trust me when I say that you know some, who are looking out for you, making you feel good when you’re down and offering themselves up as a should to cry on until someone better comes along. Decent of them eh?

I’m using this blog to make a stand for the decent ones. The ones who never get away. The ones who will be there, listening to all your tales of why men/women are so awful, all the while feeling nothing but love for you. The one’s you’ve cast off as being ‘too good a friend’ to date. Where is the logic in that statement?! The person who knows you the best and cares about you to almost the same degree as your family doesn’t warrant being considered as a potential romantic partner? That, my hat wearing friends, strikes me as a little odd!

I advocate the growth of the ‘romantic friend’ movement. I shall champion this fight and take it to our romance filled streets! Who will join me? It’s easy to start – all you do is have a look around you next time you’re single, and look a little closer to home this time. Perhaps the right person for you is an awful lot closer than you thought. It could be the start of a beautiful new relationship…or not…but hey, why not give it a shot, just to say you tried! Join the RF movement this year and fight for the little guys and girls!

At the end of the day though, love is something that we all seemingly crave, for various reasons. I won’t argue a case against love because I know I would lose. All I will say is, don’t follow the pack. Find it where you want it and enjoy it for all it is!

Have a fantastic Valentine’s Day with someone special, or join me down the pub if you’d rather. I’ll be there all night!

Much love, Simon xx

Mantra for 2012: Meet new people

Year of the Social Animal

So we’re just over one week on from New Year’s Day now. How many of you are still keeping those resolutions that you set yourself for 2012? This week and next is the peak time for people to start dropping their resolutions and pretending that they never made them – sneaky eh!

You don't think I'm perfect?

Personally, I’ve made one that I plan on keeping as long as possible. This, in itself, is a rarity as I never make resolutions for reasons that I don’t really remember. I think it was something to do with my bitter, cynical, teenage-self believing that I was too cool to make resolutions. Well, that’s changed at my ancient age of nearly 25. Now it’s time to reassess, grow and improve myself through my singular resolution:

 I must meet at least one new person every week

 

Easy you might cry, but trust me, this is not as easy as you would believe. There are set rules in place, loving created by my friends, to torment me into keeping this resolution for the next year. They are as follows:

  1. I must keep a log of everyone I meet, including name and location of meeting. This is in the form of my diary. Not a journal before you make any presumptions – just a diary for appointments!
  2. This person cannot be someone I have a fleeting conversation with – ie. Shop assistant, bartender, lost tourist on the street etc. It must include at least a five minute conversation and their name. No name equals a failure.
  3. One is the minimum requirement – I should aim for as many as possible. (The original aim was one a day, but we realised that I would either end up making friends with hobos, or going insane, so I adjusted the resolution.)
  4. Christmas Day is an exception!

 So how have I been getting on? Surprisingly well actually. I ran a few attempted trials between the 28th and 1st to assess how much success I would have and the results were good. Since the first, I have met:

1st: Hugo – Bar Manager (who gave us free drinks and knew a friend of mine – success!)

2nd: No one

3rd: Martin, Olva and Laura – Bar Staff (With which I had a 30 minute chat)

4th: No one

5th: No one

6th: Martin – Economics Lecturer

7th: Izzy and Sousan – Friends of a Friend at a dinner party

8th: No one

Not a bad start eh! In eight days, I have met seven people. I like these odds. Whilst a number of them I am unlikely to form a blossoming friendship with, there is every chance that some of them will become regular contacts. This makes the resolution worthwhile for me, being the sociable creature I am, and long may it continue…without sending me too insane.

For now,

Simon

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Blog off!

Simon says….

Ladies and Gentlemen, do not adjust your computer screen.

There is indeed an intruder in your midst…

Simon - St Saviours' guest blogger

Ok, I’m not officially an intruder. I’m a little bit unexpected, but I am known to Kate and Matt. Honestly!

I should introduce myself properly. I’m Simon – I’ve come on board the good website St Saviours as an alternative blogger. I met Kate and Matt when I was working at Topshop, officially in a Managerial role, looking after them in their fledgling days! Somehow, I befriended them and have ended up in a blogger role recently to help them out and give them the occasional break. I no longer work for Topshop before you begin worrying about double interests etc – I’m now in PR so I’m very removed from the high fashion world which they now inhabit, but hopefully I’ll have some knowledge of what I’m talking about!?

Anyway, I became interested in them through my slightly over-obsession with hats. I’ve had a thing with hats for quite some time. It started with a trilby, then another trilby, a flat cap, a cap, a pork pie hat…the list goes on and on. They now line my wardrobes here in London and back home in Bristol. They were sneaky-they’ve sold me three more hats since I’ve met them. I think I’m now their most regular customer. No wonder they made me a blogger eh!

I will happily admit that I’m horribly jealous of these lovely people at the moment. Not only are they managing a fantastic business full of beautiful hats, they also get to rock out at all the coolest events and festivals around the country. I don’t know anyone else who gets to do that – I’m clearly in the wrong trade!

I’ll leave it here for now – I’m using this entry as more of an introduction. You will see me here again before long, assuming Kate and Matt allow me near a keyboard again! Here’s hoping eh.

For now…

Simon

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